Hosts provide advice on urban vs rural living

Area or stay in the city. Adam, do you want Bonnie to clarify what the question is? I'm unclear. Here's what I think you should do. What are the choices? I've got a great advice for her. I think what you should do is find a podcast that you trust that specializes in advice and send an email that lays out the whole situation. And then maybe the people who on that podcast will read your letter and. And offer you advice. That's a good idea. Okay, I'd just like to chime in here and say, well, one reason I'm summarizing is because that's what Caitlin Cohen says. But the other thing is that we've had a tendency. Letters are read, and then you guys start debating about what the person said. So I was moving us along. Wow, that's completely passive aggressive. Oftentimes I feel like I'm the only one who's gotten yelled at about that on this show. She shames us. On the show. She shames us. Oh, my God. This isn't going at all how I planned here. Let me give my actual advice, though. Hold your horses. There is what I would say in terms of moving to the country. It sounds like that's a really fraught situation. Now, I understand the impulse to want to help take care of your mom, although that could turn unpleasant very quickly. And I understand your impulse to want to be an aunt. And that's a very pleasant. Here's what I advise you do. See if you can start extending your visits a little bit or visiting more often and see how the relationship has developed since you've moved away. See if it impacts your mental health if you're visiting, say, for three weekends a month or something. And if that's too much, then you have your answer already. So ease your way into this. Don't just pick up and go there and then hope that, like, the codependent bullshit doesn't happen again, because then you're stuck. Okay, Adam, I'm going to turn to Tony and not exactly Wannu, but, you know, it's. Tony. What's your perspective? Before we take a break, give us your perspective and your advice for their crinkler. For this crinkler who has a problem deciding whether they want to stay living in the city or move to a rural area with their family. Does Caitlyn do this, like, five times? She. She summarizes again and again. Yeah, I think. Okay, I'm sure. Pretty.