Speaker discusses managing anger and personal accountability

But I'm gonna get to decide what I do with that. And with those feelings, I'm gonna get to decide. So I didn't have to shame myself for being angry, because I started to, and I realized I didn't have to. And I didn't have to turn that anger into a confrontation like my gut instinct was telling me to do, but I didn't. Or I didn't have to let it continue to have me spiral or, like, ruin my morning. It's okay to have a pause and think about what's triggering me and think about how I want to respond. And. And I'm glad I didn't say anything and give that person the time of day, because honestly, what would yelling at that person have done in that moment? They wouldn't have cared. They are who they are. And for me, I probably would have felt like, oh, God, I wish I didn't lose my cool like that. So you can. You can realize that anger is a feeling, and it's not something you have to be following through. Like, it's a playbook of instruction. Like. And again, social media tells us quite often we do need to do that. You don't have to do it. You. You don't have to do that. I also think you. You have to. And we. I'll say we. We have to stop confusing letting go with letting somebody off the hook. This person's a disgrace, in my opinion, and I'm not letting this person off the hook. But I also can let go of how I'm feeling to protect my peace. Sometimes we hold onto that anger because we feel like, oh, if we're. If we're not angry, we're surrendering or bowing down to this person. Right? We think that if we stop being upset, we're somehow excusing their behavior or minimizing their harm or not standing for what we. That's not true. That's not true. You can hold someone accountable and not like what someone preaches or says without obsessing over them. I really believe that you can speak out against something you believe is wrong without allowing it to consume your entire life. And there are ways to do that that aren't yelling and screaming at the person who puts those messages out. Right? Maybe it's. Maybe it's putting a little donation to an organization you believe in or posting something on social media. If you have a platform that's inspiring and motivating every once in a while that's not always so dark and doom, gloom and heavy, there are ways to do it. You can take meaningful action without spending every waking hour emotionally fighting everybody you disagree with. Because what is that going to do? It's going to make you sick, let me tell you. That's going to create stress and make you sick and take away years off of your life when they're not feeling the effects of any of that. So letting go of that, like, emotional grip I'm gripping so hard, it doesn't mean you're letting go of your values. It really doesn't. And again, social media will try to tell you that it does, but it doesn't. It really, really doesn't. You don't have to remain miserable and angry all the time.