Speaker discusses social media perceptions of life (Part 2)

Oh, I love this place. Let's go to the beach. And we're like, we. So the. The seven. The set, the seven years that you stayed in that little thing over there that you were really unhappy in, but we're just gonna forget because, like, bikinis and let's go to Nobu. Like, she didn't do that. Now, the final question I want you to ask yourself. If you're like, I'm blowing it up, I'm blowing it up. I'm gonna blow up my life and leave. Last question would be, are you idealizing a fantasy life for yourself? I think it is so easy and so common to stalk someone on Instagram or TikTok and think, oh, my God, it must be so nice to live in New York and go to the cool fashion parties every night and travel to Ibiza over the summer. But here's the thing. You are comparing your life to the fantasy of someone else's. You are not actually seeing the insane amount that they're paying for rent. You're not seeing the piece of dog shit they stepped in on the sidewalk. And they're like, I fcking hate this place. And you're definitely not seeing the anxiety they feel of having to make their life look so amazing all of the freaking time. And so even as adults, there can be this feeling that everyone else, they've all got it figured out but you, right? It's so different than college when, like, we're all kind of on the same timeline. And when you get out of college and you're really adulting, people start to move through life differently. And you can look at your feed and you can even think looking at your friends and be like, am I doing something wrong? Like, should I have done what she did? Or what? What's happening? But you guys, let me just say this. Take it from someone who knows social media and knows these people that you are fantasizing about. At the end of the day, they are still people with real problems. And they still have super boring days in their sweatpants where they question their very existence. They're human too, right? And so my advice here is to picture the reality, not just the fantasy. If you move to New York, will you have friends there? Will you be able to afford rent? Will you be stressed or will you be excited? Like, be real. Live your life in your head for a second and be like, and if the answer is yes, I actually would love it, then maybe moving is a really good idea for you. But if you're just picturing the glam.